The Funeral Service
A personal funeral service, properly prepared and delivered with care and sensitivity can help give comfort, support and a sense of hope to those grieving. It is important that I spend time with you to find out about the life, loves and achievements of your loved one so that I can pay them proper and accurate tribute. A funeral should be a celebration of a person’s life, and should leave a beautiful memory for those left behind . It should be the type of service that you and your family want, and should be personally designed to portray the unique characteristics, expressions and personality of your loved one.
It is a good idea to have, if possible, a few family and friends present when I visit so that I can gather varying insights, opinions and memories. From these facts I will write a eulogy or biography which I will give to the family to read to make sure it is totally accurate. It is your choice whether we include religious elements in the service or not.

Examples of Readings
- many more available

Adapted from That Man Is A Success

That man is a success
Who has lived well, laughed often and loved much.
Who has gained the respect of intelligent men and women
And the love of children:
Who has filled his niche and accomplished his task;
Who leaves the world better than he found it,
Who has never lacked appreciation of Earth’s beauty
Or failed to express it;
Who looked for the best in others,
And gave the best he had.

Ecclesiastics 3:1-8

There is a season for everything,
A time for every occupation under heaven;
A time for giving birth, a time for dying;
A time for planting, a time for uprooting what has been planted.
A time for killing, a time for healing;
A time for tears a time for laughter;
A time for mourning, a time for dancing.
A time for throwing stones away, a time for gathering them up;
A time for embracing, as time to refrain from embracing
A time for searching, a time for losing;
A time for keeping, a time for throwing away.
A time for reaping, a time for sowing;
A time for keeping silent, a time for speaking.
As time for loving, a time for hating,
A time for war, a time for peace.

From the Book of the Dead

As each day ends may I have lived,
That I may truly say;
I did no harm to human kind,
From truth I did not stray;
I did no wrong with knowing mind,
From evil did I keep;
I turned no hungry person away;
I caused no one to weep

Death is Nothing At All Canon Henry Scott-Holland

Death is nothing at all
I have only slipped away into the next room
I am I, and you are you
Whatever we were to each other
That we are still.

Call me by my old familiar name
Speak to me in the easy way
Which you have always used.
Put no difference in your tone,
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed
At the little jokes we enjoyed together
Let my name be ever the household word
That it always was
Let it be spoken without effect,
Without a trace of a shadow on it.
Life means all that it has ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was:
There is unbroken continuity.
Why should it be out of mind
Because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval
Somewhere very near,
Just around the corner.

All is well

I Did Not Die

Do not stand by my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlit-ripened grain
I am the gentle Autumn’s rain

When you awake in the morning hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight,
I am the stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there. I did not die.

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